This article is specially posted for the students of JNV Mahabub Nagar and JNV Puducherry.
People often found me happy though I have a sober face. Well, how happy I am and if I am really happy are the questions that can be answered later during a private talk. While contemplating on what really makes man reasonably happy [complete happiness is impossible?] I ran across this article by Kushwanth Singh whom I admire for his lucid writings. I think, the points he mentions for a happy life can be a mantra for each one of us to follow.
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I don’t believe in rebirth or in reincarnation, in the day of
judgement or in heaven or hell. I accept the finality of death. We do not know
what happens to us after we die but one should help a person go in peace—at
peace with himself and with the world.
I’ve lived a reasonably contented life. I’ve often thought about
what it is that makes people happy—what one has to do in order to achieve
happiness.
First and foremost is good health. If you do not enjoy good
health, you can never be happy. Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct
something from your happiness.
Second, a healthy bank balance. It need not run into crores, but
it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to
spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in
the hills or by the sea. Shortage of money can be demoralising. Living on
credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.
Third, your own home. Rented places can never give you the comfort
or security of a home that is yours for keeps. If it has garden space, all the
better. Plant your own trees and flowers, see them grow and blossom, and
cultivate a sense of kinship with them.
Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend.
If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It
is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time.
Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in
life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame. Envy can be corroding;
avoid comparing yourself with others.
Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gup-shup. By the
time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their
gossip-mongering.
Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfil you—gardening,
reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music. Going to clubs or
parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of
time. It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied
meaningfully. I have family members and friends who spend their entire day
caring for stray dogs, giving them food and medicines. There are others who run
mobile clinics, treating sick people and animals free of charge.
Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to
introspection. In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind
absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day. In the
evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go
over the tasks you had intended to do.
Ninth, don’t lose your temper. Try not to be short-tempered, or
vengeful. Even when a friend has been rude, just move on.
Above all, when the time comes to go, one should go like a man
without any regret or grievance against anyone. Iqbal said it beautifully
in a couplet in Persian: “You ask me about the signs of a man of faith? When
death comes to him, he has a smile on his lips.”
(Excerpted from the Absolute Khushwant: The Low-Down on
Life, Death & Most Things In-Between)
